Showing posts with label Children. Show all posts
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Thursday, May 31, 2012

Hope everyone is enjoying this beautiful day.  Check out my new blog for BabyCenter.com about Kids and Philanthropy.

Lisa Lori


Kids and philanthropy: giving begins at home


BabyCenter Guest Blogger


By: Lisa Lori, President, Lisa Lori Communications
Remember when your parents told you to appreciate what you had? “Think about all of the starving children in the world!”
In those days, helping others consisted of Trick or Treating for UNICEF at Halloween or donating cans for an annual holiday food drive.
Today, there are so many more options for families to participate in philanthropy that are fun, educational and truly inspiring. In fact, children and young adults have become the most motivated volunteers and fundraisers because once they find a cause they love, they dedicate themselves with gusto! Some of the best ideas come from kids themselves.

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But like anything else in our busy lives, getting started is always the hardest part. To find a cause or organization that resonates with your family, research it together based on criteria you all can agree on. Identifying a cause can be as simple as picking one to help or remember a loved one or helping with clean up efforts for your favorite park.
My family was motivated by a surgeon who helped my three children who were born with a rare medical condition called facial paralysis that required facial transplant surgery. He talked to us about a charity he volunteered for called Operation Smile, an international children’s charity dedicated to providing life-changing surgeries to children born with cleft or other facial deformities. They make kids smile. We were sold.
We have become so engaged with Operation Smile that we now think of them as part of our extended family. My children have designed invitations with their own artwork, told their story through interviews and later this year will volunteer on a mission. Every task engages them differently.

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Explaining the how and why of you are getting involved with a particular organization is key. The more I tell them where the money you raise will go to (research, building a house, buying food) or how providing helping hands to an organization helps them (feed people, give them medical aid, provide an operation), the more my children want to help.
Volunteering together as a family bonds us and gives us opportunities to discuss subjects and feelings with children they may not otherwise understand or feel comfortable communicating. In our case, it wasn’t always easy to explain to our children why they were born with physical challenges but when we opened up our lives to others, they not only met incredible people but it gave them a forum to discuss their condition and share their experience. It helps heal us in a way that practical medicine never could.
Last year, when San Francisco parents Audrey & Rip Gerber’s oldest son Robby, 14 (then 13) suggested to his parents that they do a monthly volunteer activity they thought it would be a fleeting idea. After the first shift, Robby and his brother Max, 12, were energized to do more. Now, each month they go to the San Francisco Food Bank and help out together. Robby says, “It makes me feel good helping someone who is not as fortunate as me.”

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Most people who engage in philanthropy say the same thing, by giving to others I get back so much more back than I give. Children respond to volunteering in the same way and it can lead to a lifetime of giving to others. Philanthropy teaches them about service and kindness at an early age and may inform their life choices about careers, friendship and tolerance.
Philanthropy helps children understand the world around them in a unique and vital way. I encourage everyone to take the time and give this gift to your child.

Lisa Lori Headshot 150x150 Kids and philanthropy: giving begins at homeLisa Lori is president of Lisa Lori Communications, a pr firm specializing in non profit and lifestyle marketing. She is the mother of three boys ages 11, 9 and 8. Her philanthropic work includes the recently launched fundraising initiative with Operation Smile called, The Three Little Bears, named after her children.

Thursday, May 17, 2012

I Know What You Are But What Am I?

Lisa and Luke discussing Operation Smile's Three Little Bears on News 12
Today, my children had a half day of school so we went to lunch at a favorite little kids place we often go to.  It has open seating but there were no tables for four so we split up two and two.  After about 10 minutes my 9 year old came over crying and said "that kid is making fun of me."  My son has a disability and it isn't unusual for other kids to stare or say something but it is unusual for him to be so upset.  So I got up and picked up his and his brother's food to move them. My 8 year old said, "Why are we moving?"  I said loudly, 'Because a kid was making fun of your brother.'

The mother at the next table said it was her daughter but that, "she's only two and a half and I told her it was none of her business."  I hear this excuse a lot, as in he's only a kid so if he is rude or insensitive 'well he's only a kid.'   Given that logic I said, "Well it still hurts his feelings," and walked away (I'm no angel it's taken me years not to want to tell these types of people off).  She left the restaurant and then came back in much to my surprise, and asked me if her daughter could apologize. First time in 11 years a parent has ever done this.   And I'm talking 100's of times.   The girl apologized, I explained his condition and then I touched her arm and said thank you.

My son was hurt today but he touched someone in a very profound way. That mother taught her child empathy, that mother put herself in my shoes even if it was for one minute.  I don't really like fighting these battles everyday sometimes I just want to be anonymous but today, I hope that Mom thought about her kid and my kid and realized there was no difference.   She taught her daughter kindness and showed my son he mattered.


Xo, Lisa Lori

How to foster empathy for disabled kids by Lisa Lori on BabyCenter.com