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Lisa Lori

Kids and philanthropy: giving begins at home

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By: Lisa Lori, President, Lisa Lori Communications
Remember when your parents told you to appreciate what you had? “Think about all of the starving children in the world!”
In those days, helping others consisted of Trick or Treating for UNICEF at Halloween or donating cans for an annual holiday food drive.
Today, there are so many more options for families to participate in philanthropy that are fun, educational and truly inspiring. In fact, children and young adults have become the most motivated volunteers and fundraisers because once they find a cause they love, they dedicate themselves with gusto! Some of the best ideas come from kids themselves.

But like anything else in our busy lives, getting started is always the hardest part. To find a cause or organization that resonates with your family, research it together based on criteria you all can agree on. Identifying a cause can be as simple as picking one to help or remember a loved one or helping with clean up efforts for your favorite park.
My family was motivated by a surgeon who helped my three children who were born with a rare medical condition called facial paralysis that required facial transplant surgery. He talked to us about a charity he volunteered for called Operation Smile, an international children’s charity dedicated to providing life-changing surgeries to children born with cleft or other facial deformities. They make kids smile. We were sold.
We have become so engaged with Operation Smile that we now think of them as part of our extended family. My children have designed invitations with their own artwork, told their story through interviews and later this year will volunteer on a mission. Every task engages them differently.

Explaining the how and why of you are getting involved with a particular organization is key. The more I tell them where the money you raise will go to (research, building a house, buying food) or how providing helping hands to an organization helps them (feed people, give them medical aid, provide an operation), the more my children want to help.
Volunteering together as a family bonds us and gives us opportunities to discuss subjects and feelings with children they may not otherwise understand or feel comfortable communicating. In our case, it wasn’t always easy to explain to our children why they were born with physical challenges but when we opened up our lives to others, they not only met incredible people but it gave them a forum to discuss their condition and share their experience. It helps heal us in a way that practical medicine never could.
Last year, when San Francisco parents Audrey & Rip Gerber’s oldest son Robby, 14 (then 13) suggested to his parents that they do a monthly volunteer activity they thought it would be a fleeting idea. After the first shift, Robby and his brother Max, 12, were energized to do more. Now, each month they go to the San Francisco Food Bank and help out together. Robby says, “It makes me feel good helping someone who is not as fortunate as me.”

Most people who engage in philanthropy say the same thing, by giving to others I get back so much more back than I give. Children respond to volunteering in the same way and it can lead to a lifetime of giving to others. Philanthropy teaches them about service and kindness at an early age and may inform their life choices about careers, friendship and tolerance.
Philanthropy helps children understand the world around them in a unique and vital way. I encourage everyone to take the time and give this gift to your child.

Lisa Lori is president of Lisa Lori Communications, a pr firm specializing in non profit and lifestyle marketing. She is the mother of three boys ages 11, 9 and 8. Her philanthropic work includes the recently launched fundraising initiative with Operation Smile called, The Three Little Bears, named after her children.

Last night at the Operation Smile Gala in NYC

             Lisa and Alisyn Camerota         

Mat, Zachary and Lisa Lori

Donald Trump and Shelley Goldberg

Rethinking the Rubber Chicken

Protect & Respect Body Shop team in Times Square

As a public relations and marketing professional, I have been working with nonprofits on their marketing, fundraising and PR efforts for more than 20 years. In the last decade there have been many changes to how nonprofits approach special events and fund raising.   One thing that hasn't changed much is the amount of time and effort that goes into choosing the menu at the thousands of benefits and fundraisers being held across this country every day.  The all-important entree - what we refer to as the proverbial rubber chicken - is being contemplated and discussed at length as we speak by more people than watch “American Idol”.    I often marvel at the amount of man hours spent by hard working committees, development and special events staff trying to find exactly the right meal.  Now of course, if event donors are paying for a glamorous benefit evening the meal needs to be the best option available but an over-emphasis on the plate to me can be symptomatic of an organization that hasn’t recognized the subtle shifts that are happening within the donor community and events as a whole.

As the fight for donor dollars increase, organizations talk a lot about how hard it is to raise money.   This is in no small measure due to the saturation of events and annual campaigns for worthwhile organizations that have become so prevalent across the country.  Parties and philanthropy are popular like never before.  This is without question a good thing.  

However, in NYC alone, you can attend a gala every night of the year and rest assured most of them will follow a very similar agenda --cocktails, dinner, speech, dancing.  With so many events and requests for dollars, the amount of people who can attend is becoming more and more sought after.  As a result, the focus and refocus on details like the plate to see if they can possibly raise a little more money every year keeps increasing.  Forget the plate, take a good long hard look at your event, why you’re doing, what you are trying to communicate and why people should care.  It is of course, easier to repeat the same idea than to reinvent and risk but, any organization who has held the same event for more than five years running should mandate a re-evaluation of its formula not so they can throw out the whole idea but so that they can keep it fresh and exciting and appealing to its audience.    

To truly understand fundraising today, I believe it behooves all nonprofit professionals and volunteers to understand that there has been a huge cultural shift for donors over the last four years.  It began in 2008 as a reaction to purse tightening, but is now considered smart and informed giving.  Donors, big and small - because small donors who give every year are equally important - are choosing to focus their giving and their energy on fewer organizations, but are giving more.  Party hopping is less important than choosing an organization that reflects one's own values and interests, allowing individuals or companies to identify with it and make an impact.  Let's call it the “Bill and Melinda Gates effect”, instead of writing checks and asking their other powerful friends to write checks, Bill and Melinda as a team decided very deliberately to make themselves part of the process of finding answers. It has in fact, become their life's work.  But you don’t have to be wealthy like Bill or Melinda to care, social media has galvanized and given a voice to the small donor who previously might have gotten lost in the mix.

Speaking to this highly informed donor regardless of size is, of course, more work and not easy to lock in with just a filet mignon dinner and a night of dancing.  But give them what they want and you will reap the rewards. Committed donors are going to events to learn about the organization, the community of people that supports it and sure, the pomp and circumstance is big part of the fun (no one likes a good party more than me; I chose it as a profession), but the progress of the mission has become the new star.   At the first Operation Smile benefit I attended as a donor a couple of years ago, a beautiful young woman came onto the stage and sang a song by Celine Dion.  When she was done, she said to the audience, “Twenty years ago, Operation Smile performed life changing surgery on me that enabled me to speak, smile and now sing, thank you for changing my life.”  There wasn’t a dry eye in the place.  I can’t tell you what I ate that night but I remember her vividly.

So when you are planning your format, consider this -- a highly informed donor wants to know if their $250, $500, or $1,000 a ticket donation actually matters.    Does the event aspire to attract donors who care about its mission?  Does it aspire inspire action?  I was personally shocked that the KONY 2012 campaign organizers did not anticipate the scrutiny of their finances when their campaign took flight.   Nothing could have prepared them for the intensity of the spotlight they received but not having cogent answers at the ready for where all the money was going was a rookie mistake on a gigantic scale.

There is an old saying that everything that can be done has been done before which is just a funny way of saying history has much to teach us if we look for it.  For myself, one of my early mentors in my career was the social activist and beauty entrepreneur, Anita Roddick, founder of The Body Shop who was as unconventional as they come.  In her 40’s at the time when I worked for her, she was often telling me the 25 year old to shake things up.  In the early 90's, the company launched the first national AIDS awareness campaign by a retail company.  The campaign, called Protect & Respect, was shot by Annie Leibovitz and included a diverse group of people with AIDS.  It was very controversial for the time and there was a tremendous amount of push back from the malls, franchisees scared of backlash and even some of the employees.   The company launched the campaign anyway and minds and hearts were opened.   I know I was.  We imagined and reimagined every scenario for backlash we possibly could.  Long before there was a term ‘haters’, we knew there would be people who would come out of the woodwork against the project.

Those faces in the campaign changed attitudes.  The ability of our consumers, people in our shops and corporate offices to identify with and in some cases meet one of the featured faces -- a teenage girl who became our spokesperson and had gotten AIDS through a blood transfusion – was incredible. We were -- I’m ashamed to admit -- afraid to even touch her the first time we met her.  She was in our modern day society a leper.  But meeting her, like Princess Diana's holding the hand of an AIDS patient, did more for me and the average mall goer than 1,000 rubber chicken dinners would have done at the time.

I was also lucky enough to meet the women who started the original Take Our Daughters To Work campaign, a program we adopted early on at The Body Shop.  Those women worked tirelessly before the age of social media to explain why mentoring girls mattered.  Once again we aligned with an idea and supported programming around it rather than focusing on the event and making the cause secondary.  

Anita was fond of saying, "Anyone can write a check, I'm interested in making a difference."  So shake it up.  Stop worrying about the chicken and ask yourself what is the one message you want people walking out of that event with that day.

"Body Shop Starting a Campaign on AIDS." The New York Times, 28 Sept. 1993.

http://www.nytimes.com/1993/09/28/business/company-news-body-shop-starting-a-campaign-on-aids.html  

Lisa Lori featured on DailyNews.com

Lisa Lori: Making a Difference One SMILE At a Time

BY Raina Seitel Gittlin

What is the one thing you take for granted in your life every day? 

Is it your ability to walk?  To work?  To talk?

Well, what about your ability to smile? 

A smile is something that says so much without having to utter a word.  And for most of us it is something we don’t think much about. 

But for hundreds of thousands of children suffering from facial deformities around the world the ability to smile can be life changing.    

 

And this was the case for Lisa Lori’s three boys – Zachary, Luke and Griffin -- who were all born with facial paralysis.  After years of enduring multiple surgeries Lisa’s boys finally were able to smile after Dr. Ronald Zucker performed the life-changing surgeries for each of the boys.

Lisa and her best childhood friend, Kathy Van Zeeland, wanted other children to experience the same gift and hope to make a difference in the lives of other children suffering with similar deformities. They partnered with Operation Smile and just last week launched the “Zachary, Luke or Griffin” Teddy Bears campaign to kick off the holiday season.

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